Have you ever met someone you find difficult to love? I certainly have; either their personality conflicts with mine and we bump heads over various subjects or they do something that disappoints me to the point that I question their integrity.
When it comes to loving others we have the greatest example to live up to in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Yet, I routinely fail to live up to that example. I can only imagine how difficult it is for the Lord God to love me.
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A few years back I experienced God's love in a moment of overwhelming emotion. Today I experienced something similar when I was overcome with love for someone I have struggled to love for several years. It was a humbling moment to be so overwhelmed I just wanted to run off and hug this person and tell this person how much I cared about them.
While that didn't happen due to logistical challenges, I do cling to the lessons I have learned through this experience.
It takes time to learn about another person. It takes time to get through their fences, through their walls, around their insecurities to get down to the person they are.
We need to do the changing not them.
If we continue in the attitude that they must change we are missing half the lesson. We cannot change anyone nor can we expect them to change. We need to look within to see what planks we need to address in ourselves. As we address our own issues we will be surprised to see that our attitude towards this person improves and they begin to change as well.
3) Change your focus
When you change your focus from their faults to your own you begin to see them in a whole new light. Finally begin to look for common interests, little things you can do to bring them a smile, go out of your comfort zone to show them respect and love. It might not be enjoyable at first but as your opinion and expectations for them changes you develop this sweet little feeling inside for them called love.