Friday, January 20, 2012

~*Sunshine: Healing!*~

I've been rather quiet recently about our little Sunshine and that, my friends, is a wonderful thing!  

For the past 2 years we have had a predictable pattern to go by with our little man.  This involved 6 really great months and 6 really really rough months (November through May).
 
November is little man's birthday month and the beginning of the holidays, followed by the rest of the birthdays.  It is the perfect storm for a child with anxiety, post traumatic stress, and attachment issues.  

This year, though, we knew we could talk more out with him...help him connect the dots between his emotions and his behaviors a bit more than in years past.  We knew he was maturing a bit and had a little bit more self-control.  

For the most part we were right and we never had any major meltdowns, angry moments, anxiety attacks or the like.  


That right there is a ~*MAJOR*~ breakthrough for him!

~*Praise the Lord above*~  

We still have many more years of healing, teaching and guiding but I can breath a sigh of relief that we saw a major milestone happen with him.  It feels great to be where we are at right now.  It took 2.5 yrs of healing to get to this spot.  


I still pray every single day that this little man will learn self-control, self-regulation and will be able to overcome what overcomes him right now.  


I post the good, the bad and the ugly, not to put my child out there on display but to help and encourage those who have a child who has been traumatized by abuse and neglect.

It screws with every single fiber of their being.
It screws up their ability to self-regulate their emotions and responses to situations.  

It screws up their ability to function on a normal level.  

Just recently, Sunshine, was hyper-excited and showed extremely immature and loud attention seeking behaviors.

Why?
  
Because something in his routine changed and while he was excited about it he was also extremely nervous and his nervousness comes out as loud, immature behavior. 
He cannot self-regulate in certain situations. 

So, what do I do?

 
I have to be the mom that loves my child enough to be the grounding force in his life.  I have to follow through with consequences and that is so hard.

  We'll keep plugging along!
I'll keep praying for him!
In another 2.5 years we'll be light years from where we're at right now!

        

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