Oh, the fake drivel...the cute, perky laugh, the stunningly fake smile that says "I'll fake it till I make it", the show-and-tell type attention getting behaviors.
Can't stand 'em!
There are times we have to physically pry our child away from another person who does not understand adoption boundaries or explain to folks that the more they tell this wee one she is cute (over and over and over again) the more difficult it makes it for us as parents.
I will never forget the time a man told me "What bothers you we find cute". I was floored. This person deliberately would not keep his hands off my child and encouraged the clingy falseness. Another time I watched as my child was toted around on the hip of another mother...when I was able to free myself from my mob of children and I called this velcro child back over to me this child burst into tears. What she needed was me. Coming to her. Pursuing her.
The charade was too much and the delicate wall of fakeness that had been built was not as strong as my sweet one thought it was. The walls came crashing down and once again my sweet one clung to me. Wandering aimlessly seeking that validation and confirmation from everyone else but always coming back to me...where it felt safe.
How many times do we wander away from God? Aimlessly seeking validation and confirmation from the world?
I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.