Friday, August 15, 2014

~*Fake It Till You Make It: Or Where We Become Real*~

Oh, the fake drivel...the cute, perky laugh, the stunningly fake smile that says "I'll fake it till I make it", the show-and-tell type attention getting behaviors. 

Can't stand 'em!

There are times we have to physically pry our child away from another person who does not understand adoption boundaries or explain to folks that the more they tell this wee one she is cute (over and over and over again) the more difficult it makes it for us as parents. 

I will never forget the time a man told me "What bothers you we find cute". I was floored. This person deliberately would not keep his hands off my child and encouraged the clingy falseness.
Another time I watched as my child was toted around on the hip of another mother...when I was able to free myself from my mob of children and I called this velcro child back over to me this child burst into tears. What she needed was me. Coming to her. Pursuing her.

The charade was too much and the delicate wall of fakeness that had been built was not as strong as my sweet one thought it was. The walls came crashing down and once again my sweet one clung to me. Wandering aimlessly seeking that validation and confirmation from everyone else but always coming back to me...where it felt safe. 

How many times do we wander away from God? Aimlessly seeking validation and confirmation from the world?

John 15:5
 I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.

  

Thursday, August 14, 2014

~*Sticks and Stones: Repairing the Damage*~

Analina was raised for 5 long years in the largest city in China. We have been blessed to connect with the many mothers of these amazing children. Not very long ago her orphanage was one of the worst in the country and the atrocities were exposed by a hidden camera investigation which became a documentary. A new orphanage was built and is now considered the showpiece of the country. This is the institution that dignitaries are given tours of and is often featured in the media. 

However, the abuse and neglect have continued. We could ignore it and pretend it doesn't exist but the truth is that only allows it to continue to get worse and more children are exposed to these circumstances that no human or animal should ever have to endure.

 These children take years to feel safe and comfortable enough to disclose the information to their families.

The accounts are all consistent.

There are grave atrocities that happen to these children.

Of all the abuses we're aware that have happened to our sweet soul the most damaging have been the cutting words. 

She is so beautiful! 
But they called her ugly. 

A delicate flower that blooms after a wildfire ravages the landscape.  
But they called her ugly. 

I cannot even imagine. It could be defended as "cultural" but no, no culture should demean a little girl to maintain control over another human being. 

    The physical wounds have healed but it will take years to rebuild her soul, her confidence, her ability to trust and believe we are not lying when we call her beautiful.

And the best part? We get a front row seat as this beautiful flower blooms!



Luke 12:27
Consider how the wild flowers grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.