Monday, March 23, 2015

A Return to Outdoor Running

What is the first thing you look forward to each spring? Is it the return to out of doors activities because that sure was my motivation this last weekend...a return to all things outside!

I'm not exactly a winter road runner...while our County and City do a fab job on the roads for driving I tend to be cautious about running on the ice and snow. After yearly revisits of a badly sprained ankle I just don't want to risk it. 

Enter the first 5k of the season!
We Ran for the House with our bible study group and had a ton of fun! 

The bonus? 

Setting a PR in the 5K while pushing the 35# nearly 8 yr old clad in a spica brace/cast in the BOB stroller. 

Are you a winter road runner?
Do you find yourself a bit overly cautious on certain terrain or under certain conditions? 

Hebrews 12:1
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Sunday, March 15, 2015

~*RAD: Scribble Scrabble*~

One universal trait of my RADiant blessings is the need to control. When Sunshine was 4 yrs old we began homeschooling him, along with brother J.J., and we kept it simple by utilizing workbooks because it took 2 solid years of repetition before he was age appropriate in academics.  Often, there would be coloring involved, and for Sunshine, this usually meant scribbling. 

At first it drove me nuts...I knew what this child was capable of, I knew how nicely he could color and it didn't look like scribble. After a bit of time I began to realize it was a need to control his situation and not an inability to be neat. While I wanted to allow him some control I still needed him to be able to color somewhat nicely for educational purposes. Honestly, we never did figure out the right solution for him, yet, eventually he outgrew it. 

My joy-boy, Dalton, will scribble, yet, his RAD is slight enough that we are able to require a "do over" and that usually solves the attitude. Analina, is so similar to Sunshine in behavior, at times, it is almost scary.

I pulled Sunshine aside and asked him if he remembered doing it and why. He cannot remember doing it but he said, even now, that he will be in middle of coloring and become angry because he just doesn't want to anymore and wants to be done RIGHT THEN, therefore, scribbling to be done sooner.

I want to teach my children from hard places to follow through with what they start and to do each task with their very best effort.

We give choices and options, where available, to our children so they feel they do have some control. Controlling is a cornerstone behavior for kids with RAD.

How do you give your children with RAD "control" without them being controlling? Giving choices and options where available? Other ideas and suggestions welcome! 

Titus 2:6
Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.    

Saturday, March 14, 2015

~*Large Family Living: Sickness*~

What's a large family to do when illness strikes?

Suitable Shortcuts:

Paper plates, etc; hello, I am not insane!

Clorox wipes or simple soapy/bleach water.

Sprite, graham crackers, applesauce, toast, etc. 

LOTS of these babies! 

A really good sense of humor because you are going to have one heckuva Mt Washmore to conquer!


Movies to plug your children into, because, hello, I am not insane! 

When the storm begins to calm, along with your tummy, expect to spend several days cleaning up and possibly retraining your children who may have momentarily forgotten that we don't actually watch t.v. 24/7 the rest of our lives! 

Erika, over at Large Families on Purpose, has an exhaustive list if you want more details...

What is your fave comfort routine when illness strikes? 

Psalm 30:2

Lord my God, I called to you for help,
    and you healed me.

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

~*Praise Him in the Storm*~

I know we talk about praising HIM in the storm...well, there has been more beseeching and downright begging than praising, lately, to be completely honest.

When we stepped forward to adopt two medically complex children we knew they were a bit of a mystery, however, the amount of medical surprises has been, well, surprising!

After Dalton's headache/vomiting episode in February that ended with his first and, prayerfully last, seizure we knew that we would be fooling ourselves if we thought it would never happen again. I've been holding my breath a bit, lately, hoping that it wouldn't happen again so soon but the headaches are back. 

They are different now, despite his migraine and seizure medication, which makes everything seem new all over again. With medically complex children situations change so often and so quickly that security is an illusion.

~*Medical Trauma*~ 

I know that some physicians disagree that this even exists but I put them up there with those crazy coots who thought the earth was flat, they are just delusional! 

Trauma exists in all forms. From repeated events over a period of time to one isolate traumatic situation.

A freaky situation, like Dalton's seizure, with head injury, separation from mom for several hours, tests upon tests, extreme pain, etc can cause severe anxiety in children. 

For a child with past trauma to experience a new trauma is very difficult to work through. 

While I'm begging and pleading with my Lord to heal my kiddo of these ailments I am, also, clinging to those who have walked this road ahead of me to share their wisdom on helping my child through this painful and difficult time. 

Pray for the kid will ya???


Monday, March 2, 2015

~*Treadmill View*~

Let's take a tour, shall we?

 What is your running view? 


Proverbs 17:24
A discerning person keeps wisdom in view,
    but a fool’s eyes wander to the ends of the earth.

Sunday, March 1, 2015

~*Are Medically Complex Children Bad for Siblings?*~

While we have been supported so wholeheartedly through this challenging medical season, there is a stirring in my heart that I think I need address. 

Why do this? 
Why put our other children through this?
Isn't it unfair to them?

Oh my, where do I begin? 

If you had a child born with some unexpected ailment, condition, or disease would you not move heaven and earth to see that your beautiful baby had the best care in the world? 

Of course, for the vast majority of my audience the answer is a resounding *YES*! You would never give up on that child until you had answers! 

When we chose to adopt we knew that we were adopting children that were a medical mystery. We said the same exact, YES, that you have said every time you added a homegrown kiddo to your family.

Yes, our China blessings are medically complex and the further we dig into the care they need the bigger the mystery seems to get. They are filled with fun and not so fun surprises. 

If I would not reject a homegrown babe why would I reject a heartgrown babe on the possibility of medical surprises?

The concept that this is unfair to our other children is just bogus.  This journey has taught our children invaluable lessons of compassion, attentiveness, true love and acceptance, how to advocate for needs and how to navigate the medical community.

Those character qualities and skills are invaluable. Setting aside all generic discussions here, we firmly believe that teaching all of our children the value of life, the value of *each* life, is a precious gift.

 No matter how desperate the situation, no matter how deep the pile of medical equipment, no matter how intricate the special need, each and every life is valuable. 

Luke 12:7
Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.

Day 1 (3.1 miles complete)